To answer my own questions: There is no list of hidden grammar rules or etiquette that particularly include the trespasses on my initial post. As for "Why is Arqade the most inhospitable place to post gaming questions I have ever come across?" After reading your comments and answers I've come to the following summary.
First of all, all the comments and replies here were polite and helpful to this question. It explained things that I was asking for, and displayed some form of diplomacy. I work in IT, and I specifically deal with diplomacy and communications in terms of technology, and I think I've pinpointed what could contribute to a more inviting environment here, and it's not limited to my post, I've seen this complaint elsewhere on this site.
Logic dictates pretty much all edits here, for "clarity" and for other purposes. But ultimately it is for the purpose of providing accurate information. From an external perspective, the probing and comments like "what does useful mean" and "you can find this in the options menu" are robotic representations of what a goodfaith understanding would be of the question. Someone wants a list of controls, they couldn't find one. Provide them a link, "is this what you were looking for? Does this look useful?"
To me, it's not clear what the edits were supposed to accomplish, it muddled with the spirit of my question (while 'I' and not 'we' is more "clear" it is also not true), and is generally confusing to me how such a short-lived question warranted so much consternation and effort. Clarity doesn't have to mean logic and function. It can also mean friendly. Your "what does useful mean" is my version of "what does clarity mean."
I am very active on Steam, and in the same discussion thread on No Man's Sky asked that question. My answer there to this question was this:
"It's the Internet, and they like to argue."